Forgiveness is a process. It is a conscious decision to let go of the residuals left by offensive behavior. Forgiveness does not condone the offense nor require reconciliation. Any attempt to reconcile must consider whether it is safe to even try. I like to think that forgiving myself is a reconciliation.

Ultimately, forgiveness is for you. There will be times of doubt that you are capable of forgiving. Like life, there will be vicissitudes. Forgiveness is controversial. Even so, it has helped me get rid of a lot of anger, resentment and bitterness.

Good luck.