I was like that. I never really dated until I was 37 years old. Looking back (I just turned 40) I realize that I started dating after I started taking an anti-depressive for headaches. For about 6 months I sewed my wild oats (and I'm working on a book that tells that story) until I met my husband. Now that we are trying to have a child I've stopped taking the anti-depressives and in some ways feel the way I did before I started taking them.

I had lots of excuses as to why I didn't have a significant other but the main reason was I was so unhappy with myself that I thought I was unlovable.

Wouldn't mind sharing more if you want - send me a PM.