Thanks shadowdancer. I have no doubt I'll love London.

Hi DanielleVyas... thanks for your kind words.

I've emphasised my "position" to her, being that me and my friendship are always going to be available. As for mantaining contact... don't think that would be wise. I was pushing it with the letter. The few times we have "engaged" in contact post-break up has ended with her being hostile. Is she justified in said hostility? No. I understand why though in an objective light (as difficult as that may be to mantain at times), which only reinforces and confirms for me she is NOT a healthy, stable individual.

If I tried calling her, for example, I would be accused of further "harrassment". I could have gotten VERY angry with her and those feelings of anger still linger still. I'm going to have to be the bigger person here, though. The only time me and Sarah will have a friendship is when she's ready -- which would mean confronting a lot, and that's her journey - not mine.

But I sent the friendship stone and said my piece - which has been the final piece said in this whole saga. I am satisfied with it because this has concluded (for now anyway) with a positive and open-handed gesture instead of some ridiculous text from her saying "STOP HARRASSING ME".

And although it might be egotistical but I am proud in myself for being able to make this "stand". I know others who would have succumbed to rage and bitterness. I do at times question whether I'm being TOO understanding. But I don't see it as a problem as long as I don't FORGET what has happened, or create a fantasy in my head where Sarah is something she isn't.