Welcome unknown.....you do know that highschool is just the beginning of your life....not the end....you haven't even started to live yet......your age is a growing period. (note this is from a 52 year old who has gone through this too.....many many many years ago....lol.

The important part of high school is what you learn in terms of acedemics. No one can ever take away your mind & the knowledge that you learn. I found when I focused on the educational aspect & the things I had interest in (like music, science, math, foreign languages, literature, crafts, computers, etc) then I could get involved in groups that focused on the things I had interest in. It is much easier to expand socially when you share an interest with others. It builds a common area to share ideas, humor, & serious discussions. If you try to realize that lunch break is only a very small part of school & that the acedemics are what the focus should be on.

Analyzing your acedemic strengths & interests & finding others that share similar intereste, you will be able to take a step towards expanding your social status.

Getting a therapist or even a counsellor that you can talk to is probably a good place to express your feelings & ideas & they can help you on your social growth issues. It is important to be well rounded...both intellectually & socially. It does take a lot of work & knowing your weaknesses is a good place to start....the people I really feel sorry for are those who don't realize the need for development in both areas of their lives (my husband is an example of someone who only cared about what he learned & never developed socially.....thus a big problem in a marriage). You are really more advanced than many who are only interested in one aspect of their lives.

Just realize that you are growing up....you are not grown up...you have a long way to go & if you need help along the way it is important to get it. A well rounded life is a good thing to strive for & you seem to realize what is missing. It isn't wrong to get help for your weaknesses.....very few people are even able to identify their weaknesses.

You are one step ahead of many.....even though you are struggling....you will be able to get there.

Take care,
Debbie