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Originally Posted by Araya
Well, nobody can diagnose your friend just by hearing about her, or diagnose her online. However, it might be beneficial for her to see a t who can work out why she doesn't take care of herself - even if she doesn't have a disorder. She'd have to see it as a problem first though, and she sounds very sensitive about the issue. Rather than being accusing, I'd try confronting her in a manner that voices concern. Let her know that you're aware of a lot of health problems which can come from not taking proper care of one's hygiene, and you're concerned for her physical health and state of mind. If you can tentatively and carefully mention the depression and how you hate the fact that she has to feel so sad sometimes, that might also help your point. Yeah, she will probably try to push you away, but hopefully you'll at least get her thinking in the right direction and let her know she has friends she can trust. If she really does have a true infection and won't take care of it, then it might even be necessary to inform someone. If that gets worse it could cause a major problems. Wish I could be more help in that area, but I'm actually not very well in the know about correct procedures in those cases.
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Thanks. Would you happen to know who we would inform (or any here know?) . its hard to describe her toe, but it is indeed infected.. it's big, red, purple, and looks like it would be warm to the touch, and she states it hurts while walking, but as soon as I mentioned she needed to go see a doctor, and if she didn't want to go alone, that I would come with her, that she would like that better, she stopped talking about it, and even though she doesn't say anything now, i know it still hurts her because she limps sometimes. There's more gruesome details I could give you that would show you what I see, but I don't want anyone loosing their lunch .. or dinner.. or snack..
Perhaps I see this as the most important thing out of it all right now.. because despite her risks by not being clean, or even to her depression right now... this health issue can kill her (i'm assuming.. if the infection were to go into her blood). And it's been a long time since this incident has happened.. and i'm not even sure if it happened as she said it did.. (scizzors dropping down from the counter on to her toe) .... A part of me wonders if there's a psychological issue going on along with this wound... I don't know any of her family to be aggressive.. but... I have also heard stories about when she was a little kid... And if someone wounded her toe, my theory is that she maybe keeping it that way for serval of reasons... one that it's not known about and it's still a "secret", two maybe shes awaiting the person appology, three maybe she wants it to get as bad as it can so the other person will hopefully feel horrible about doing it, and maybe even make others see something that wasn't seen before when it was just a "minor gash". All of that is speculation though.. I have nothing to back my thoughts up.. regardless if what I think is right is right, i do know something is wrong..
And I hope people don't think I'm just complaining here.. I brought this here because... she's my best friend, and one of the most important people in my life... which means if anything ever happened to her, that .... i would be more than devistated...
It's hard to talk with her, when it's not something she wants to hear, because she pouts and if you keep pressing on past that, she tunes you out. And I myself am overly intune with other peoples feelings, so I feel like i'm walking on eggshells when that happens.
Also... I think... if anyone had any better sounding words than pout or pouting or anything with pout in it, but means the same thing... I would like to learn those words.. because I think with her family they have over used that word, and just from observiation it's hard for her to tell what's pouting and what warrents for being sad. (either way though one of her parents calls it pouting whenever it benifits her to do so.. even when its not.)