My son attends bowling league every Saturday morning. I take him every other week, my ex takes him every other week.

No one talks to me there. My pessimistic mind says that it's because my ex is friends with all of them so he's told them that I'm bitter and evil and a head case. He was actually served legal papers at the bowling alley in March, so I'm pretty sure the majority of the people there are aware of that particular piece of info.

My optimistic mind says that it's just my shyness and that if I talk first, they'll talk back. But I've tried to talk to some of the other moms there when we're sitting at a table in a group, and they all look at me like I'm speaking a foreign language and go back to speaking amongst themselves.

How do I go about finding out why I seem to be so unappealing to talk to without coming across paranoid or suspicious?