Thank you LovebirdsFlying
you know, it feels nice to be validated, thank you.
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And, even though I never thought of it that way, and it doesn't trigger me like that, any time someone is working on a car and then says, "OK, start her up," it serves as a reminder to fins that women are objects.
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YES!! that's it!
Someone REALLY understands me.
....*sigh*, thank you
hearing the word "her" in regard to an object leaves my mind reeling in anxiety.
(My mind instantly sees-- strip clubs, groping, rape, prostitution.... all the trauma and degradation that happens to females when seen as objects)
oh why can't objects be "it"?
And YES-- the Beauty Pageants, Yea right-- "empowerment" my *&@.
Those that are thinking I'm just a sour grapes type female.... NO, I was asked many times in school why I don't try out for cheerleader.... seems I fit the "appearance" requirement, I didn't because, even then I felt the imbalance of the genders and didn't want to partake in such. I've been whistled at and received comments from males-- of which I don't appreciate!
they dont' even know ME! They are reacting solely by seeing me as a cool car or a shiny boat, not by knowing my inner-self...
It's like the whole population is saying-- "there, put females in there place -- not to be taken seriously, to be valued by appearance and not by production, to be used and disgarded at will"(how many elderly women do any of you see on weekly TV shows?? it's OK for elderly men to be seen by the masses-- but please-- hide those old women away, in the US anyway. I don't think other countries are as bad. I hope it changes before I get old, that is, if I even do get old)......
this patriarchal culture will work hard to always remind it's masses, that in general-- women are to be objectified.
I'm trying to grasp your "added" note...... it's a bit fuzzy for me to understand.(not because of your writing- but because I get confused in ideas of rational vs irrational and irrational vs correct.)
thanks very much for your reply, it means a lot to me.
fins