I agree with QueenAccountant: wives and husbands don't have the right to limit where the other goes on the internet. It's like telling someone what books they can or cannot read, or which TV stations to watch. It sounds like your husband has some serious control issues that can make life miserable for you. Is there any possibility that you could get him to come with you to couples therapy? If the two of you are churchgoers, could you and your husband consult with your pastor? You might want to talk to your pastor one-on-one first, and let the pastor know what's going on. The minister could then just have a preliminary chat with your husband after services. Of course, there's always the possibility (depending on the kind of church you attend) that your pastor would support your husband and you really ought to feel him out about his position before you ask him to intervene. If your pastor believes that husbands have the right and duty to control their families, then you probably ought to avoid having a three-some with him.

You have a real and significant relations problem, and I wish you all the luck in the world in working it out in one or a series of meeting with an appropriately trained therapist.

The very best of luck in your endeavors to work things out. There are some very interesting books out there about how to deal with a controlling spouse. I don't know how many would appear at your local bookstore, but at places like Amazon or Barnes & Noble you can easily search by using key words like "controlling spouse."

I'll put you in my prayers tonght and we'll see what can be done.

Kindest regards,

Ygrec23