isadora, why do you cry almost every night? If your friend is so good to you, why the tears?

He has invited you to tell him what you would like him to change. Please, isadora, make a list of things that you would like to see changed. He has no reason not to trust you. Or to tell you what to wear. Or to say who you can talk to and visit with.

I say this somewhat facetiously, but I think it would be great if you told him he could not wear tight pants when in the company of women. Or ogle the pretty girls. Or talk to any other girls without your permission and only when you are present. Or to talk to his family or friends. AND, HE has to prove to you he is not cheating and will not ever even think about it because you do not trust him.

You, of course may have additional things you might want him to change.

Without a doubt what your friend is doing is soul murder: The deliberate attempt to eradicate or compromise the separate identity of another person. He can say he loves you forever but he treats you like a puppet on a string -- to be tugged and pulled at his whim.

isadora, I apologize if anything I said offends you. Even so, I am so concerned about how he treats you. You deserve better.