belle, i think marjan has been giving you really good advice lately. i have to admit i can't imagine why anyone would stay on a med that makes them not be able to function sexually. i'd rather be depressed and have my plumbing working than happy and uh...you know. when i suggested maybe looking into the roots of your relationship stuff this is the part i was referring to: the obsession and why you seem to be having trouble letting go, also why you are picking these types of guys to date. that usually comes from somewhere. the steady, mature guy you aren't interested in but these guys who don't know what they want seem to appeal to you. hey, i do understand, i totally do it too.