I have come to the realization through therapy and reading that the relationship I just got out of was with a sociopath and it was one of the most horrible experiences of my life. The worst is wanting to warn everyone we both know to watch themselves but realize they probably wouldn't take me seriously and think i'm just bitter over the breakup.

Mike gives off the impression of being this quiet computer geek who's had his heart broken, when the reality is FAR from that. Things were great when we first got together other than his rather obsessive playing of the game WOW, but as time wore on little things started to happen which should have been warning signs. He held his ex over my head in subtle ways that made me feel like I was not the one he wanted to be with, began to ask for more from me both materially and financially, and withdrew from going out with me socially. He talked me into going on the pill for his pleasure and when I accidentaly got pregnant gloated that he knocked me up when his ex couldn't get pregnant by her new bf.

He increasingly ignored me for games, books, etc. and showed a complete lack of remorse for any rudeness or hurtfullness on his part. He never got me a single present for ANY holiday but took presents from me. He exhibited child like behavior such as sucking his thumb, sleeping with a blankie and throwing tantrums. When asked he would say "I love you as much as I can." The only time he was happy was when he was getting his way, and anything done for my happiness was a "sacrifice."

Then there were the stories of his past which mostly centered around some form of sexual deviency such as an affair that broke up a marriage, experimenting with homosexuality "just to see if he could", and threesomes including one with his best frend and the widow at a funeral! I was appalled but told that "all men are like that and if I had a problem with it I should date women." He also watched porn almost every night.

He refused to learn even the symptoms of my health problem but would ***** when I got sick. He increasingly refused to spend time with me and would force me to do what HE wanted when we did.

In the meantime I had bought him food, shampoo, cigarettes etc. when he was poor only to find out he was spending money on games. I even helped him buy a computer which I still have to deal with him about regarding payments. I took care of him when he was sick, fed him, cleaned for him, did everything for him and asked nothing in return.

The final straw was when I caught him lying to me and found out he had been flirting in front of his coworkers with a woman at work. After multiple promises to go to therapy and mutiple excuses for not going I left him. But...I recently found out I was too late and he'd already cheated. In fact he slept with this women and then came home and slept with me. I don't even know if he showered! His response when I asked him how he could do that was "I wanted to ****."

So please, if any of you have a person in their life who is obsessive about personal pleasure of any sort, unremorseful, and a user, read everything you can about sociopaths and get as far away from that person as you can.