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Originally Posted by little*rhino
it depends in part on how you define "danger" and what your definition means to you. In the case of real danger to life... well, with the exception of the most rare of circumstances it is best to hold one's tongue to live to speak another day. But if "danger" to you means criticism, rejection or other forms of psychologically painful events... then you need to weigh those things out and perhaps re-evaluate them.
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Criticism, rejection, or other forms of psychologically painful events can morph into being physically dangerous. As they were in my childhood. So they are not
entirely separate. They did happen; they could happen again. History shows that being emotionally healthy is not always safe. There are areas of today's world in which it might be worth your life to try to act in an emotionally healthy way. I generalize from that to its affecting my emotional life. Seeing those things affects me. Seeing that those parts of the world are
not entirely separate from my area of the world. Similar things happen here. How much health is there here? Or do you deny that there are
any significant problems here?
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you are speaking in a way that really makes it difficult to ascertain what it is you are actually asking though...
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You noticed that, did you?
I was not aware I was asking anything (other than for reassurance).
Here is an example of thinking along lines that are not always appreciated here, or elsewhere: not seeing "bad people" as "bad people". Not seeing "abusers" as "evil". Not seeing
anything as "evil". Trying to see beyond labels, trying to comprehend what is happening, rather than condemning it. Trying not to use words (such as "evil") that mix
feelings with facts. Because mixing those things, not understanding that they even
are mixtures, and what errors of that kind can mean when trying to deal with difficult situations, is creating the possibilities for mistakes and unsuccess in attempting to treat.
Do we condemn cancer as being "evil" (in seriousness)? Does it help if we think calling it evil helps to cure it? Does it have anything to do with what actually causes cancer, or does it have to do with our feelings?
Oh well. I have so little support IRL I seem to have to come here to ventilate...
