Might I suggest that while many, if not most men, value women (at least women whom they don't know) based on appearances - they don't value other men at all.

I suppose that a man on a subway or in line at the coffee shop who is checking out a woman he finds attractive and is deciding her worth to himself could be annoying if that woman wants to be valued as a person by strangers but, you might notice too that he is not checking out any of the guys. Unless he's gay, fellow men are invisible and have absolutely no value - even as an object.

I am happily married and have never wanted to stray, yet a pretty woman can cause me to turn my head in appreciation while the rest of the world is passed without so much as an acknowledgment of their existance. I suppose, insomuch as I know nothing about the woman and have no desire to get to know her, that my head turning is objectifying her...it is just the physical that I am looking at...but I see no harm in it.

Anyway, just some random thoughts...curious if you find fault in my behavior.