To me, real grown up emotional health is feeling good about what I think, knowing my thoughts are just thoughts, and just my thoughts, and not comparing myself with others.

I do agree that treatment should not be aimed at shutting down the emotional process, but exploring it. Depression, for example, can be a great motivator if it is not seen as pathological. It can be an awareness that things don't feel good as they are, a nudge to make some changes, something to listen to. The same with anxiety...where is this starting and what is the process and what does it say about me? (never mind what it says about 200 people in a survey or research group)