KeepHoldingOn,

I hate jumpimg onto bandwagons, but the very first paragraph of your post concerned me.

I am speaking from personal experience when I warn you that having a ring around your finger will not change a thing. Both people have to be committed to make a serious relationship work. (Married or not) When one feels vulnerable, that adds stress. Both people have to work through the stress together, to strengthen the committment and faith in one another.

You being stuck in fear ~ fear that he isn't truly completely committed ~ and him growing resentful for your constant need of assurance isn't real good. Adding to your fear is his tendency to withdraw, rather than talk about what's bothering him. He NEEDS to talk about how he truly feels, rather than putting a cork in his mouth (as it will certainly explode!). It's a teeter-totter ~ love/fear/hate. Yikes!

Please do seek out some professional help to make it through the pain that you seem to your find yourself engulfed in. Perhaps your finace will join you in the journey of self-improvement. I hope that he does. You both need to make some changes before I'd recommend making a date for the wedding (or going any farther in the relationship).

Very best wishes to you!