Guys aren't checking out other guys..... because they are above such objectification, by pressure from the culture.
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do have value to each other, as an equal-- and that value is called-- Respect. They would never want to objectify another man because that would be disrespectful-- it would make them less than what they are currently. That's why one would be hard pressed to see a man watching at a "chip and dales" show.... they respect the whole male persona and are NOT ever encouraged by the culture to see the male as a sexual object or judged as sexy. (I think they don't want women to do to them what they do to women, so if it's just not accepted cultural wide then males will always be respected for their humanness and not just how "pleasing" they are to another)
The culture is saturated with females as sexual objects and as objects in general-- it doesn't surprise me that women blindly go along with it-- it's all they know. The culture is GREATLY geard towards males and their desires/interests. With little or no concern how it affects the females.
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I am happily married and have never wanted to stray, yet a pretty woman can cause me to turn my head in appreciation while the rest of the world is passed without so much as an acknowledgment of their existance. I suppose, insomuch as I know nothing about the woman and have no desire to get to know her, that my head turning is objectifying her...it is just the physical that I am looking at...but I see no harm in it.
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If I were your wife I would be offended. You see no harm because it isn't hurting YOU in any way. I imagine, even if slightly, it has caused your wife to feel perhaps-- less than, threatened or pushed aside. And that other human you objectify is being considered as a boat, car or cow. And the other females that you've deemed as not deserving of your attention have once again been shown they are of little worth. It keeps the male -- the predator-- above females-- the prey. Some day your daughter will be sized up by men, judged to be worthy of value or not..... hope the "lottery wheel" has been good to her.
I think the "males are more visual" idea, is a crock of - you know what!
Humans are all visual. Why do women like flowers so much? visual. Why do women like bright colorful clothes, men don't even care? visual. Why do women like to decorate with colors while men would be content with brown and beige? visual. How come women notice details so much? visual.
...... I believe the culture is trying to pass off the notion of males "being more visual" instead of --being more sexual..... trying to pull the wool over our eyes.... sad thing is-- it works for the masses.
Females' sexuality is still not encouraged like males is.
I thank you AkAngel for your reply and for not acting defensive-- it's very refreshing!
I have a scenerio that I'd like to run by males, I hope to get some feed back.
next post...........