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Originally Posted by superpain
I am seeing a counselor about every 2-3 weeks. She doesn't see anything wrong with what I'm doing. She agrees that I do have "issues" and that my husband is emotionally abusive and VERY controlling. She said that she would begin to worry if I began to think the doll is real.
As for all this, I am seeking help, but it's not helping me deal with him. He's now stooped to issuing me an ultimatum...get rid of the doll and baby clothes/carrier or he's leaving me. He says when people laugh at me, he cannot and will not "defend" me because he has no other explanation for my behavior other than I'm crazy. 
So, I'm very hesitant to touch the doll now. I'm afraid he'll walk out on me.
I wish I could just go away and that all the pain would go away. I can't take much more. |
superpain
Every 2-3 weeks isn't very often at all.
Your husband's behavior is very immature and hurtful. It doesn't sound as though he's being real helpful to you, and separating from him might be the best thing that you could do for yourself. Who in the heck is he to make such horrible remarks, belittling you and warning that he'll leave if you don't get rid of the doll??
If he wants to say that you're crazy ~ whatever. But I'd say that he's being a real jerk. We can't control what other people think. We can only control our own thoughts and behavior. You can focus on accepting what you feel comfortable with. Be honest with your grown kids when they ask what's going on. Chances are good that they'll still be there for you.
That's my opinion..