It isn't fair at all. Although we can't expect people to treat grieving people any differently, if compassion does not make us human; what does? I became irritated with many people after my fiance's death. After eight months, I am finally letting some of that go. I can not change jerky, insensitive people nor do I want to make the effort to try. But that doesn't mean I won't offer comfort and support if they need it someday.