I know that this is going to come out wrong so please allow me to explain a bit. I don't believe you'll agree with my perspective when I'm done either but I don't mind that, I just don't want to be misunderstood, you know?
Before I do though, how ironic is this... I actually find the terms 'female' and 'male' to be mildly offensive (no offense taken). I believe that the designation of male and female are for animals while people are men and women. Anyway...
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Originally Posted by purple_fins
And the other females that you've deemed as not deserving of your attention have once again been shown they are of little worth.
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They ARE of little worth to me; perhaps even none. People with whom I don't associate have no value to me. Now to be clear, life has value to me - I have and would put my life in jeopardy to save a stranger but their persona...no value to me. Someone, man or woman, can be of value to me in a number of ways - they can, for instance, be a conduit for mental, emotional, intellectual or spiritual intimacy. They can also be attractive and a source of visually appreciation. Of course that is the least important of the values but it nevertheless exists.
You said,
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Guys aren't checking out other guys..... because they are above such objectification, by pressure from the culture.
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I realize it would be easier to just say I did this but prior to writing this post I called three gay friends and asked them if they check out guys. Two are involved in a relationship, one a very serious six year relationship and one is a monogamous dating relationship - the last is single. Each of them replied at least 'yes' though there was an 'Well yeah, of course!' and even a 'Yes, who doesn't?'. I actually got five respnoses in total because two of them had their boyfriends in tow when I called.
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Originally Posted by purple_fins
It keeps the male -- the predator-- above females-- the prey. Some day your daughter will be sized up by men, judged to be worthy of value or not..... hope the "lottery wheel" has been good to her.
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My daughters have and honestly, anyone who is looking to hook up with my daughter on the basis of what he thinks of her looks is unlikely to get past 'hello' with her. She needs there to be more substance than that although she looks at men and notices whether or not they are 'hot' or not according to her standards as well. Noticing attractiveness and basing a relationship on it are very different things. Unless you are basing a relationship on it - then the lottery wheel doesn't really matter.
I look forward to your next post.
Angel