Thanks for the well wishes. As for labeling him a sociopath, my therapist is actually the one who did that based on not just my experiences and description of him, but also friends of his who've known him since childhood, family members, and a phone conversation he actually had with my ex. We were TRYING to get him help. The best part is that since I discovered the cheating and asked for the computer back he is trying to tell his roomates i'm crazy and tried to beat him up and take the computer! That I'VE been stressing HIM out! He's afraid i'll take the computer while he's as work so wants the people he lives with to think i'm crazy so they'll call him if i come around! I just want my money because I cannot afford to pay off the $800 bill and I want him OUT of my life. I'm going for an STD test next week and pray i'm clean.

And yes, Seeker1950 I do accept responsibility for my part in enabling him and going along with his behaviors when I should have left WAY earlier. I beat myself up every day for staying as long as I did. I realize i didn't love myself enough to believe i deserved and could have better. I just don't want others to go through what i am if they can recognize the symptoms sooner.