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I did not go through this myself, but my mother and my Aunt did and I do believe that it has affected them to this day. Their father denied being the father of my Aunt (younger of the two) until she was about 12.
When my mother was a few months old, her father came to see her for the first time, had relations with my grandmother again and the product was my Aunt. Why my grandmother decided to continue a physcial relationship with a man that had nothing to do with his first child, I'll never understand.
When my grandmother met and decided to marry when her daughters were 12 and 14, their father finally decided to make an appearance in their life. He said he didn't know that my Aunt was his daughter. His father, their grandfather was an active participant in their life from birth so it was all a load of crap, he didn't decide to even meet his second daughter until it became known my grandmother was finally moving on with her life.
He blew back into their life promising rainbows and unicorns. The man my grandmother decided to marry was not a pleasant man, and neither my mother or my Aunt got along with him. Their father promised to allow them to move in with him if they wanted. He promised them the moon and the stars then wrapped his car around a tree two weeks later.
My mother took it somewhat in stride, she was happy living with her grandmother, but my Aunt has been bitter and resentful her whole life. She has cause to be sure, I believe it has affected her relationships with men. Her husband has treated her like crap her whole life.
It's been a cycle, both of her daughters also have unhealthy relationships with men as well. I don't know how you can not be affected by that kind of rejection.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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