Thunder - I just don't feel that as an adult that's chosen to be in a relationship, that is an acceptable excuse. I support him in whatever he's doing, and I think I'm actually quite a good person for him to talk to, as I try my best to stay unbiased and am more than capable of stating my opinion on a matter. He has sometimes bottled up work issues, mostly revolving around one of his business partners, but we have been together long enough to walk eachother's lives together
Please don't find offence in my opinion, but that is how I expect him to handle things in our relationship.
We usually start the evening off going out together, but when I'm tired he just carries on and I have no option but to go home on my own while he carries on. And being his own boss, he can afford to just come in to work (or not) as he pleases after a late night.
Sometimes I get upset with this whole thing as well, as I suffer from BP II and have often enough told him that I need a stable life and that he is my rock (albeit not a very stable one)
when we are out together and he's had more than a few drinks, he becomes VERY jealous and I actually cannot have a good time. I either get ignored or every person I interact with (Which is always one of our mutual friends) is seen as a threat to our relationship. He needs to learn to trust, as it's destroying our relationship.
I have very few friends that are MINE - we are always out with his friends, or mutual friends that he either works with or he has known for a considerable amount of time.

But thanks for your thoughts anyway - tonight we will have a chat, as I spent 2 nights away from him to give him space, learn to miss me and appreciate me again