So your husband makes you feel tense? No wonder your son has anxiety too (I think I remember reading this here??). Well, this is great insight geez that you have recognized this. Awareness is great. I remember having to work on my anxiety concerning my husband. Mine was me working on my comfort with having someone close to me. Never experienced that before and I had to get used to it! You can work through anything if you set it as a goal. What I have always done was to continue to gather info and problem solve. All of our journeys are unique. How you react to your husband does affect him. I found that I didn't speak up enough with my husband. When you aren't used to speaking up for yourself you don't notice. Once I did, it improved things a lot.