That is probably one of the worst things and most hurtful things that could be said to me (and has). Sometimes the rhetorical responce is the only thing that can drill the point and hit home. They say: 'can't you just get over it?'
Responce: 'Yeah, sure! Just as soon as you get over your ignorance, I'll get right on it! Let me know where your at with the process.!"

I am sorry that had been said to you, I think everyone here really understands. That's got to be comforting. (Wow my old combative self came out on this one and I wasn't afraid.)