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Old Jun 20, 2010, 07:19 AM
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Oh, I get it... you don't want to hear about people being happy when you are not. I totally do. I sometimes totally envy my friends going to fabulous work dinners when I don't have job at the moment and dine ramen noodles (I sometimes cry in my ramen too...).

But there is a risk of becoming a party pooper... Some people worked hard for their success, therefore I feel kind of oblidged to listen to them. In friendship, there should be the 50-50 ratio. Because sometimes you just want to whine and rant to somebody. SOMEtimes is the keyword.

different folks have also different ways of dealing with things... and I believe you can get thoughts of depression. Of course, I am not saying that you can change your mood by 180 degrees... but for me... I feel somehow better when I distract myself...

So if those happy people are your friends, who listen to you and are there with you... let them share their happiness too... Because it's important to them just as much as your feelings are important to you. In exchange, they can be there for you... If they are random strangers tune them out. They are not being happy to offend you... Not everybody will understand you. If some people are doing more harm than good to you, than maybe they aren't the people you need in your life.
Thanks for this!
Perna