Oh, that does sound very unpleasant! Those are the kinds of dreams where I'm glad I can remind myself I was "only" dreaming. Sounds like you are trying to get an important, strong message to yourself, "forcefully". I'd look at what's going on with the bf as I'd think brother is a milder form of bf, same sex and a sibling (can't get much "closer" biologically). You still feeling strongly about his job/lack of job, etc.? Making excuses for his not holding up his end of the money/earning equation (he was prostituted as a kid so you'll give him a break). The two dreams together look remarkably similar to me only you are working hard and supporting both of you, despite your brother molesting you but he's offering excuses, his father forced him to be with a prostitute.