Quite honestly, if I hadn't started taking the anti-depressives for a different issue I think I would still be single as well. I'm not saying that was a magic bullet or anything, but it was the change I needed.

I was scared also, and afraid no one would ever love me. I was involved with a man before that, but he ended up telling me he never really loved me - just what a person with low self esteem needs to hear.

I didn't want to get too close to someone, afraid they would find out who the real me was - someone I definately wasn't proud of. I couldn't see myself getting that close to anyone.

I told everyone I was happy and put on a good front. When I was alone I would cry myself to sleep night after night.

Sharing your life with someone is a BIG deal. It's something you have to be ready to do.

People tell us we need someone else to be complete, but I don't believe that. I've seen too many people willing to settle for someone that wasn't right or good for them just so they weren't alone.

In the end, you have to decide what is right for you. Notice I didn't say what's easy, but what's right. Sometimes what is right is stepping out of your comfort zone. That may be bucking society and remaining alone or looking for someone to share your life with. Neither one will be easy. And I can't say which is best for you. That's something you have to work out for yourself.

If you want someone to help you work it out, I'm here for you.