thank you all for your support. money has always been an issue in our marriage, he feels because he earns more money he makes the final decision on how it's spent especially big ticket items. When i needed a new car he said he would buy me a car as it was cheaper on gas but i wanted a van as i was always driving everywhere for my 4 children's sports.i had received an iheritance that i wanted to put in our joint acct but he said no keep it separate. However if i wanted a van i would have to buy it myself. He is obssessed about saving to the point of it being petty. I'm not a big spender but because i'm not like him he considers me wasteful. I felt that wanting a van to feel safer for myself and the children was not an unrea.snable request.He was more intent on saving money on gas