Liz,

Have you heard of the words "Control Drama"? This is so classic it was like reading it right out of the book.

I could write for ages on it but that won't help, and I'd only be giving James Redfields words anyway not my own. So I honestly suggest you read The Celestine Prophecy.

It is the one book that explains the controls that people use over each other, in the simplest of terms that are easy to understand.

I wouldn't be trying to get into a marriage when the relationship you are in is already so complicated and tied in knots; I really think you need to sort yourself and your insecurity out before you complicate it even further,

Best Wishes,

Rhi