Hi there all - thanks for the replies.
I gave him 2 days space to think about things. To get a bit lonely and miss me, thereby hopefully appreciate what I bring into our relationship and therefore what he stands to lose should he choose to not change. I'm not sure why I short change myself...
We had a good chat on Saturday, and he's not an idiot - he realises where he's overstepped the line. The ball is really in his court to make the changes. We had a quiet weekend together and it went off well. Now to just see how long it stays this way.
Thanks for the support and kind words when I really was at my lowest
I do just need to keep sight of the fact that I am number one - i shouldn't treat myself any less and neither should anyone else.