I believe we internalized everyone we meet to greater or lesser degrees (why/how we learn from T) and loved ones especially. But just like here on earth we're "alone" and living for ourselves, I believe if there's an afterlife, that those who enter it move on with their own afterlife. The space and distance we had in life with a person doesn't change; I am "getting to know" my great grandparents through my genealogy work but they all died 20+ years before I was born. That I talk to and feel I know these people, that I see traits in myself that I imagine I inherited from them, doesn't change the fact that I never met them in person. Love and liking a person and enjoying thinking of them never changes but I don't think there is a literal "looking after" by those who predecease us.