Rhiannsmoon, thank you for helping me to understand something I forgot. That sometimes girls want to feel ugly for the exact reasons you described. They hate their beauty, for the exact reasons you deseribed. I wanted to answer what you wrote much sooner, but words escaped me. I wish for each of us that we can reclaim our truth / our power that was taken from us when we were made to think that we somehow were responsible for what was done to us. ( "us" for whomever that fits ) Our looks, our actions, our inactions etc were NOT what was ever the cause of being abused. I always hesitate using the "us" word. Because its making an assumption. So please forgive me for using it. Evening, and all others who have posted here. Huge enormous safe hugs and blessings for all who would like that.