You're welcome Beautiful pain

welcome to this thread to all new people or those that missed it the first time around.

lothose I know you are not trying to be a downer. and yes the best ways to stop is with learning new coping tools. For me it doesn't matter if I am in a relationship of that kind. The urge to release is still there. The problem with my obtaining help with this and learn new coping tools is that I have had bad experiences with therapists in that the minute they hear I cut and so on its off to the mental health units for two weeks of being locked on the units like a prisoner of some major crime, medication shuffling, cameras and staff watching every move right down to bathing and bathroom detail. so instead I come to places like psych central where everyone helps each other both during that stressful moment of wanting to, right down to giving each other ideas of other things to do to stop ourselves. As far as I know no one here is trying to take away anyones self injurious ways they use. I have read posts where people ask that they not cut and write on the boards or pm or chat. They aren't trying to take the cutting away they are giving the person a way to hold on just a bit longer and maybe by writing, pming or chat the feeling won't be so strong.

I am glad you had the help of your partner. that is a rare thing in my life.