This may be triggering to those with SA history....


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I've noticed a pattern I keep finding myself in, and don't know how to turn it around. I've been in a romantic relationship, since divorce, for one year now. We are both very attracted to one another, but something is interfering.

My bf is paraplegic. So, his enjoyment is dependent upon my enjoyment. He has great patience and a lot of different techniques to bring me to orgasm, but I'm having a heck of a time reaching it for the past several weeks. This stresses me out, because I historically have a pattern of dissociating to please men. When the focus is on ME, I just can't reach orgasm. The result is neither one of us being pleased, despite our desire for one another.

I have strong desires and so does he. We are emotionally committed to one another. Lots of lust. What's the problem and how do I turn it around again??