Tbear, remember who YOU are! You did not cuss the guy out and the guy is a mess/danger. I was surprised you didn't say you got your son and hightailed it out of there after the look he gave you and the cussing out, etc. I applaud your telling him you didn't want to talk to him.

Your cousin-friend (my father in law, before my husband and I married didn't know what to call me and decided on friend-in-law :-) may or may not get over Steve and come to her senses. Ignore her rants and just call her every few days/once a week for awhile and make sure she's okay and doesn't need you. But don't decide to blame yourself just because they've gone crazy!