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Originally Posted by lynn P.
Trigger - I put a trigger on this in case this brings up difficult memories for some people.
I realize for some people this is an awkward subject, since it's a solitary activity. The reason I'm approaching this topic is because it came up with my youngest(8yr old) yesterday. I won't go into the whole story for privacy reasons . She was visibly upset(not from me) and I sensed this was where the topic was going, so I hinted "sometimes when we touch ourselves it feels good". Then she was brave enough to ask "is it okay Mommy"? I took a deep breath and said "yes it's normal, but something that's private". Then she said "I thought this is a bad sin to do and you would be mad at me?. In the end she hugged me and said "I feel alot better now, knowing I'm not bad." I told her I was glad she talked to me and anytime she's worried, she can talk to me.
When I had children, I rehearsed in my mind, what my response would be if I accidently found one of my kids engaging in masturbation. I've heard of other peoples bad experiences and didn't want to do this to my children.
So I thought it would be interesting to share what happened when you were a kid - did you feel like it was a sin or did you have a bad experience with getting caught? Or maybe your parent handled the subject well. I'm also interested in hearing from parents and how they would handle it with their children? If it came up - was it just ignored or did you explain it's a normal but private experience?
Personally when I grew up, the feeling was - it was a shameful thing even though it wasn't discussed. I realize it's awkward to think about children deriving pleasure from their bodies - maybe that's why it a tricky subject.
I admit the whole subject was a little awkward - good thing I was driving and she was in the back seat lol. But I'm glad she brought it up and we had a successful conversation. Its was almost surreal, because I knew she would remember this conversation forever and I wanted to say the right thing, so she could feel good about herself.
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I only got caught once when I was about three (yes, three). My mom said "I don't ever want to see that again" and I completely forgot about the whole idea for several years. Never got caught again lol
She never talked to me about the subject as I got older (luckily
). She's only referred to it as or described it as "something dirty that boys do" LOL.
I'm going to stop venting about my mom's old fashioned-ness while I can
By the way, in my opinion you handled the situation very well
