((((((((((((thunderbear))))))))))))

There are some weird parallels in our situations. This same thing happened to me and my sister not 3 weeks ago. She is with a guy who has abused her horribly and her daughter, my niece is with the same type of guy.

When a situation happened that was unacceptable I made sure they knew that I wouldn't put up with it and threatened them right back (my anger from being abused outweighs my commonsense from time to time), both of them peeled my skin off because I refused to put up with it. Never mind that I was there to support her through breast cancer surgery and radiotherapy.

Then a couple of days later on the morning she is to go into surgery her guy goes to a mates place (the one who got him addicted to ICE), and his mother and I suggested that she go with him to ensure he doesn't get the drug again. She had a full on psychotic blow out (hydroponic pot type), and literally attacked me. She then left the house and went lying to her son that I had done something (I still don't know what it was supposed to have been), and then she had all of her friends there attacking me.
It was like a scene from bad boys.

She only felt strong by having all of her druggie friends to attack me. And she was apologising to them for causing trouble, not to me who had done nothing other than try to support her and keep her dumb a&& boyfriend out of jail...

Well the relationship is over now. I have walked away from my family completely. I used to think it was important to keep family relationships alive and as close as possible. But I am over trying to be part of a family who doesn't want me. I've been a masochist for far too long in that regard.

We know how beautiful you are and that you were only thinking of number 1 the children and number 2 your cousin. But when it comes to relationships some women are desperates and will turn on anyone who doesn't support their addiction to abuse,

I think you did the right thing and I support you all the way...I have a position vacant for a little sister if you need a big sister at any time,

Loving thoughts,

Rhi