I could write a book on the subject! Yes, I have always had post-therapy blues, but not ALL of the time, and particularly much less with my new T. I used to cry in my car after my sessions, and with Bt would call her often before I even went home. This happened with my other Ts too.

Sometimes those phone calls after a session would help, but not usually. I would distract myself, and get busy with whatever I needed to do, or with something that I enjoyed doing. Distracting or self-soothing activities, whatever may work for you. The recent thread had some great ideas.

My very first T, many years ago, told me what I was feeling when I first started getting attached to her. She said something like "it's hard to disconnect after being connected, isn't it?"I didn't understand what therapy was all about then, but I knew I just wanted to be with her all of the time. It IS hard to leave the therapy room where we are cared about so lovingly. Plus, things get stirred up that we don't want to face. Sessions don't end tied up with a ribbon; they end in the middle, and we feel uneasy. I think those are the basic reasons for post-therapy blues.

In my particular case, and maybe yours, it always seemed like the session was over a minute after it started. I was slow in getting to the "hard stuff", so by the time I got into it, the session was over. So, naturally I felt frustrated afterwards. I learned to start right away, but that took years. I don't know if that's relevant to you, or not. When I felt like I said what I had to, and my T "heard me", I didn't have such awful feelings afterward. When I connected with my T during the session, I didn't have to call her to get the connection or sustain it as much.

What is helping me, and it's kind of a miracle, is the longer sessions I have with Kt. I get 1 1/2 hours. I don't feel like I'm "in and out." I feel like I have enough time so I don't have to rush, and the sessions seem more finished when I leave.

Do you think there's anything your T could say that would help you? Have you told her how you feel when you leave? Maybe you could end your sessions differently. Do you end feeling frustrated that you haven't said what you wanted to say, or is that part okay? I know the "heart being ripped out" feeling. Are you allowed a phone call or email in between? Knowing that I can email after a session makes it easier for me to leave. What's your relationship with your T like? I think it has to do with that, too. I always wanted "more" from Bt. I don't feel like I have to "get something" from Kt; it's a different kind of therapy, focused more on me, not her. I never thought I'd be writing anything like this and I don't trust it yet; the feelings are so new for me.

I hope something helped you here. It's pretty normal to feel the way you do, but I think you can do things to stop feeling so utterly miserable. There's journaling too, if that helps. I'm sure you'll get more ideas.