That sounds awful thunderbear...how long does he think you can do this? I think that it's usually normal for some paranoia and jealousy but if it goes overboard (like mine did once), it can get dangerous to the relationship as well as the individuals.
I had an ex-husband who thought extra-marital affairs were written into the "contract" as he called it. Slammed the marriage certificate on the table and told me that he had bought me! I was bought and paid for and he could do what he wanted! When I think of that my toes curl and I want to explode...but I don't need to because he's gone out of my life now and my life is happy (apart from my raging mental illness).
I got jealous of my new partner because he's a looker...and my ex was a looker and a doer...so it made sense to me that the new guy was the same....I was wrong and nearly lost the relationship. I got some quick counselling and that took care of it because I was able to see it for what it is, unreasonable and irrational thinking. I am so glad that I know how to recognise the difference between abberated thought and reasonable thought...I'm sure it saved my life...
Loving thoughts,
Rhia
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