Hey there Justthetruth,
It is really difficult when someone has mental illness. We expect others to understand what we go through, and others expect us to understand what they are putting up with.
Believe me it isn't because she is a woman, and you might get a slop in the chops with a dead fish for implying that it is....
Maybe her medication could be tweeked and you could talk to your doctor as a couple and explain to him what is happening? Obviously her meds aren't working or the issue goes deeper...
Best way to handle it is with a sense of humour or with earplugs....
Cheers,
Rhia