salukigirl,

you are not responsible for your boyfriend. i'm sure his parents will give him the money to hire a u-haul home if you break up with him and tell him to move out. i know it wouldn't be easy to do and you'd feel really bad, but i doubt he'd want you to stay with him out of pity. i can't imagine anyone wanting that. if you break it off he will be okay once he gets over the initial shock. of course he'll be angry and hurt but that is understandable. staying with him when you just don't love him anymore is actually worse for him--and certainly you--in the long run.