I'll be honest Salukigirl - you've been having problems for a while. I think we agreed your BF is spoiled and lacks motivation. You will haul logs to make money - I bet he wouldn't do that. He's waiting for a job that tickles his fancy, rather than getting any job for now to make money. If he was on his own, he would have to find a job fast in order to eat. I think you need to move on your own ASAP. He will either get a job to support himself or move back to his parents - I doubt they'll like his attitude either. He knows you'll support him, so he takes it easy. I think deep down he's lazy and feels entitled from the way he was raised. I don't think you want to struggle with this in the longterm and bring this into a marriage. It's like you have to be his parent. Sorry to sound like a downer.