Like you said, the bipolar mind can play tricks on you. Why don't you try writing down your complaint, so you can think about it, before you act? Your husband is doing what a spouse should do, when us bipolars are acting out. My husband does the same thing, and......it makes me even madder. I'm always afraid I'm actually going to act out and end up getting arrested for spousal abuse. Then I start thinking about that, since it would be physically impossible (my husband in 6'8", i'm 5'8") and by redirecting my brain to that, and the fact reminding myself that I do not have the abilities of Batman, I tend to forget why I was mad in the first place. We've also been working on our communication between us. Maybe you could tell your husband what you want him to say when you are yelling at him. I told my husband to not yell back.

You also have to analyze the situation, and find out if what happened really is your fault.

Good luck.