I personally would finish off the relationship at this point & call it quits like I did with my marriage. Depending on the guy of course, it's possible to live under the same room, but in different areas of the house...you take care of yourself & he takes care of himself until you can work out the details of actually moving out & separating permanently. You don't have to do anything for him...you don't have to have anything to do with him & definitely with the way you feel so disgusted by him, you definitely don't want him touching you. If he wants a cigarette....let him roll his own....or he doesn't smoke. The only one who can stop you from being his slave is you however. Until you stop doing those things, you continue allowing yourself to be his slave. This is definitely not a good thing to become for any BF or husband. When we start being expected to do things rather than being appreciated.....that is when we end up crossing the line into being a slave. Not a good place to be in any relationship & not a good place to allow ourselves to get into either.

If you do end the relationship now, he will probably try to soft talk you into getting back together by promising you all he will do.....but actions speak louder than words & by this time, I doubt if there is anything he could to redeem himself.....that was the point my marriage got to after 33 years....the only way to go was out.

Remember, the only way you can stop being a slave is by stop doing the things that are putting you into that position....doubt that he is forcing you from what you have said. Stand up strong & stick to your guns & draw your line that is not to be crossed over in ending this relationship. What he does with his life is his problem.

Best wishes with this....but you really need to stand up & be strong for yourself & your needs.

Glad you have so much good input here