I have been seeing a gentleman for about 1.5 years. He is a really good guy for the most part. (I mean that I have been able to figure out that many times he is "being a guy" and I am being a female). When he and I are together, we have a *really* good time. We laugh, we sing, we dance, we talk, we, well you get the idea. The chemistry both mentally and physically is just outstanding.

Then enters the daughter. She lives with him every weekend, Thursday-Sunday. I have never wanted to take the place of her mom, or take her place with her dad. What I have wanted is to be respected for my place with her dad. This child sneers at me behind his back when she hugs him. She consistently interrupts any conversation that we are having. She acts helpless when he is around. When she and I are alone, she is a great kid...she acts very mature for her age and is quite kind and wants acceptance and for me to like her as any normal 10 year old would.

I am not in a position where I feel comfortable disciplining her about the way she treats me when she is with her father. I have had a few conversations with her privately assuring her that she can have her space with him and that I needed to have mine too. Those conversations have gone nowhere.

I have spoken with my boyfriend about this, and he tells me that I act as immature as she does and that I am the adult and should be able to just ignore her. I know that I have responded in an immature way before. I have also ignored her, left the room, called her out on it. My boyfriend does nothing but tell her what a great kid she is.

This has become a major source of frustration for me. He and I both have lives that won't allow us to only see each other Mon-Wed, and seldom does he want to go out on the weekends because he has his kids. I am unsure how to get over these feelings. I know that if push came to shove, she could destroy us because he would naturally choose her.

Do you have any suggestions for things I can do for *me*? I am open to different ways of approaching both him and her as well, but am particularly looking for ways that I can stop my own frustration.

Thank you in advance for your help,