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Tryin2bme said: The plan was that he was going to talk me thru everything , explain what he was doing , how it was going to prolly feel, and at any point all I had to do was to say stop and he would stop. He gave me complete control .

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i agree with tryin2bme. this is the best plan.

i had to be seen one too many times by a GYN Oncologist, who triggered me majorly during one session. he is a sweet guy but did not talk to me during the session; instead he talked to the intern about "see this blah blah blah" and was not gentle with the instruments.

once i started seeing female GYNs, then my experiences have been much more tolerable. i have seen at least 5 different female docs and each one talked to me during the exams. only recently have i been brave enough to tell docs i have sexual trauma issues. i'm pregnant now and i'm so happy i'm at the place i am (not sooo scared of gyns that i avoid them completely.) btw, i didn't see my first gyn until i was 27 and was forced by the military.

i recommend seeing a female gyn and disclosing you have trauma issues.