Hey cma,

I was in a co-dependant marriage but I was the one dependant. I put up with every affair, every drunken rant, everything because I had been told by my mum "You made you bed, now sleep in it". She never helped me but she is alcoholic too and they were drinking buddies, I don't drink alcohol at all or smoke, but they did both.

It took me 30 years to get up the courage to get away, and that was years after the marriage had died; I stayed to look after him in his alcohol fueled haze which was every day...

I just decided one day I wanted to be and deserved to be happy...if you are in this situation I hope you make your decision soon,

Rhia