Thank you for your advice, i hope you found happiness after you left such a miserable situation and yes you deserve to be happy. I think there is a bit of both each of us a bit codependant on each other. My husband doesn't like it when i go out when he's home, he wants to do everything with me , if i'm upset about something he thinks i'm mad at him and he gets in a bad mood too., Does this sound like codependance or controlling behaviour?