I have a friend who just went through the same thing. She had not seen a gynocologist since she remembered 12 years of sexual abuse a few years ago. She said she went in to speak with the female doctor ahead of time to talk to her about her abuse and the sensitive nature of her visit. I believe that any doctor who is kind and caring will take a few minutes out of their busy day to see a potential client about something so personal. If they do not, move on until you find one. She said it was not so scary since she got to talk with her first, leave the office and then return with the issue already out there, so to speak. Maybe this will help you. Take care.