hi tiny....I think when it is time for you to talk to him tell him all the things you want to say to him to let him know how you feel. let him know you are there for him to talk to when he feels he can't talk to others. He may not open up to his wife and children about his feelings of his passing. Just love him and let him know. spend all the time with him you can between now and then. I am thinking of you during this very difficult time.